Thursday, March 6, 2008
Arranged marrage, and Russian mail-order brides
I can’t think of anything worse than spending your life with someone that you didn’t choose to merry. You would be forced to have a relationship with that person, and if you began to have true feelings for some one else, you would have to hide those feelings or your life would be at risk.
When I hear forced marriage, think of old medieval kings and queens and how people married into royalty way back then. Even though I know that it is still going on, I didn’t really think about it until I read this blog assignment.
When it comes down to it, if you life is at risk in this situation, I can see why you would choose arranged marriage. I can’t relate to this type of situation because I grew up in the great U.S of A, wear people have endless opportunities and choices. I also find it ironic that the divorce rate in the
Oh yeah and what about Russian mail-order brides? Do they really need to get out of
Non romantic marriages
People in traditional communities in countries where the state is either weak or absent depend on relatives to help meet the basic challenges of survival. Without the state to provide people with fundamental services such as clean water and sanitation facilities. Also, without the state providing certain social securities for the unemployed or disabled, citizens must rely on their social networking in order to survive. Without this intricate set of social networks, people would not have any sort of assistance when they are in desperate need. Therefore, social networks comprised of family and friends provide a very important safety net for billions of people in the developing nations of the world. In such societies, it may be risky for people to choose marriage partners exclusively based on romantic love. Due to the conditions described above, one in economic deprivation must consider the wealth of their future spouse, or the social networks that said spouse would provide for the family. Both economic status and potential social networks must be taken into consideration when one is searching for a marital partner. Choosing a partner based on romantic love alone could have economic repercussions or possible rewards, but the economic capabilities of that partner should be taken into serious consideration before marriage. Other factors that may contribute to the overall economic and social growth of a community include the education of the young citizens, the health care system of this community, and job-training facilities or programs. Both education and job-training programs will provide citizens with the knowledge and skills necessary to become a productive and well-paid member of society. Providing young individuals with nutritious food and health care facilities will ensure that they will be healthy enough to complete their education and/or job training, making the society more economically stable.
Marriage
"All You Need Is Love" ?
Individuals and Western Culture
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
"I do"/"I Don't"
Now even if marriage is happening at a later age, childbirth is still likely to take place around the same age due to the “biological clock” or, frankly, from accidents as our society is also increasingly promiscuous. These accidental pregnancies and planned unwed conceptions could lead to marriage for more traditional couples, but it doesn’t seem necessary anymore as women are now in the work force and in many cases support themselves for many years without the help of a husband.
In other cultures however where survival is more difficult than waking up at six am everyday, unmarried child rearing could be most difficult. If the “tribe” does not collectively help to raise children, then women may have a difficult time gathering, or planting enough food for herself and her children. Even in the US such legal arrangements exist like child support, where if the father is not wedded to the mother he is still obligated to help fund the raising of his child. If a man deserts a woman in a culture that cannot bind him to his new “family”, then the abandoned mother and child could suffer from a lack of support that would be offered in traditional marriages.
This being said, I think it is a cultural reflection to forgo marriage in some cases. In such cultures as our own, where women hold their own jobs and households, it may not seem as urgent a situation to marry. While a women being supported by her family in a culture where marriage and childbirth depend of the survival of the people, marriage would be a likely very urgent for the sack of procreation.
I'm Happy I live in the States and don't deal with this shit.
I think in these situations it would be risky to get married based on romantic love. Since survival is crucial in these types of countries marriage takes on somewhat of a different role than what we are used to in our society. I think the people we are discussing would feel that it would be wise to find and marry a partner who could benefit their means of living. In the text they discuss the notion of bride-price. This term refers to the groom or groom’s family paying money or valuable goods to the bride’s family when the couple are married. In this particular case marriage based on value might be more important for someone instead of marriage based on love. If a family is in desperate need of survival they may want their daughter to get married to a man coming from a wealthy family. They would obviously want them to get married so they could receive the money or goods from the groom in order to suppor themselves.
I cannot really imagine any other factors like this playing a role in my community if survival is at stake. People dealing with these types of problems do not live in a Western based society such as the one we live in. To be completely honest I do not think this would ever occur in the United States. I might be naive but I just do not see it happening.
I think that society plays a big part in whether or not a couple is married or not when they have children. Either one’s society is accepting of it or not. In the United States I think it is more accepting to have children when you are not married. It may not have been seen like this in the past but it is 2008, things have changed. I think that as long as the parents are able to give the child what he or she needs in order to prosper marriage should not be an issue.
In some cultures if the children are born and the parents are not married it can have a serious consequences. The family and particularly the child might be looked down upon. This happens in the countries where people use principles such as bride-price, which I mentioned above. So my question is are the parents wrong for not being married or does the country need to change their ways and get their head out of their ass? I guess what I am trying to say is that I would not want to live in a country where I had to marry for survival. Nor would I want to live in a country where I would be looked down upon for having a child and not being married.
Love vs. Survival
Marriage for love or survival?
Survival vs Choice
2) Back in the day (America), marriage used to function as a system of survival. A woman needed a man to provide for her. Now a day, a woman can have a career and provide for herself; she can be independent from a man. This is one of the reasons marriages are so easily terminated in America. People can survive without getting or staying married. I think it’s true that there is relationship between the type of society and the traditions of marriage. A woman in an American society is more free to remain unmarried, since she can support herself, than an Indian woman in India where it is less culturally accepted because of career issues and cultural norms.
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
risky
Monday, March 3, 2008
Survival
Love and Marriage
Considering some of the major functions of marriage such as creating a family environment for children to grow in, I think there is a relationship between the type of society an individual belongs to and the choice to forgo the traditional benefits of marriage. In religious communities as big as the Catholic faith it is against the will of God for two parents to have a children outside of marriage. I'm sure that there are other major religions that hold the same beliefs as well. In many Middle Eastern countries women are forbid from showing their hair and face, I can only imagine the consequences for having a child outside of marriage. In the United States having a child outside of wedlock is becoming increasing common due to the availability of services such as adoption. Yet, the American Dream is still a happily married couple raising their children together in a nice home.
There are many cultural conditions where the choice to remain unmarried may present serious challenges such as in societies with poor economies, or those who rely on men to do the work and women to raise the children. A woman with no husband will have no source of income in these countries and raising the child will be very difficult. Like I said before, there are many societies where a woman having a child outside of wedlock is extremely taboo and could lead to punishment for a woman as well. The cultural conditions vary due to values, religion, money and common beliefs of society.
Sunday, March 2, 2008
Marriage
I think the choice belongs to the individual, I mean in this day an age marriage is just a pipe dream, a legal document that binds two people. That being said bringing a child into that environment is beneficial because that is the norm, a mom and a dad both there to support its growth and well-being. The stress for the parents is halved since both of them are there to support each other.
Cultural problems arise when a person decides to have a child outside of marriage. People are wired into the norm. If one goes against that the society could consider that decision taboo and frown upon that by calling the decision maker reckless and careless.
Saturday, March 1, 2008
Blog Assignment #4
1) People in traditional communities in countries where the state is either weak or absent depend on relatives to help meet the basic challenges of survival.
In such societies, would it be risky to choose marriage partners exclusively based on romantic love? Can you imagine other factors playing a role if the long-term survival of your community might be at stake?
2) Many people in North America and Europe choose to have children outside of marriage. Considering some of the major functions of marriage, do you think there is a relationship between the type of society an individual belongs to and the choice to forgo the traditional benefits of marriage? Under what cultural conditions might the choice to remain unmarried present serious challenges?
To answer these questions, then you will want to take into account the Haviland chapter titled: "Sex, Marriage, and Family."